Archive for March, 2013

Never quit


Life way of testing your believe is through challenges and hardship. Gold is tested by fire but human character is tested in the furnace of humiliation. The greater the test, the greater testimony. I have discovered that the spices that make life sweet are the challenges we pass through in life. Failure is part of life; until you move from failure to success, you cannot really tell a story that can inspire someone. In the course of my failure in life and relationship, I have learned a lot. Mistakes are also part of life, the only true mistakes are the ones in which you have not learn any lesson. Life itself is a teacher, it gives you the test first and later gives you the lesson.

Your obstacle may be the oracle that will bring you to your miracle. Remember Joseph in Egypt. God knows how to press the right button at the right time. Seek for knowledge. Knowledge is like a job, if you don’t search for it, you can never get it. Get passionate about your dream. Passion is the key. When you are passionate about your dream,  even the devil runs away from you. Therefore, don’t pass through life a failure. Very early in life, I made up my mind not to cheat during examination despite failure and God saw me through. My challenges started when I was writing my SSCE exam.

In November, 1997, I enrolled for GCE but I could not make it. In June 1998, I enrolled for SSCE but I could not make it. In November 1998, I enrolled for GCE but I failed. In June 1999, I enrolled for SSCE but I couldn’t pass the necessary papers, two years after my secondary school, having failed in art subjects for four times, a friend of mine told me to switch from art to science subjects. I obeyed him. Meanwhile, throughout my secondary school, I was an art student. I decided to buy textbooks on physics and chemistry. Then I started evening lecture. That was when I developed the habit of reading that has become part of me till today. In November 2000, I enrolled GCE in science subjects but I failed. In 2001, I enrolled for SSCE and NECO in science subjects. To God be the Glory, I cleared all my papers, including physics and chemistry and I develop writing skill. Honesty pays. In five years, I wrote seven exams.

If you are determined, you cannot be deterred on the way to your promise land. Seven attempt failure is not strong enough to terminate the ambition of someone who knows where he is going. If reward is great, you don’t consider the price. Short-cut never pay. You need to follow due process. If you don’t follow due process, you cannot be dully processed.

If you are gold, then furnace is the way out. The purest ore is gotten from the hottest oven. An evangelist said, “Christians are like Lipton tea, their real strength is not drown out until they get into hot water.”  For you to get something durable, you must pay the price. In your journey in life, never you try to help God. When God is training a man, he does not take him to the school of Grace but to the school of necessity” said John C. Maxwell. Tunde Bakare noted, “In God, we don’t fail perpetually, we only keep repeating the test until we pass.” Remember, quitters never win and winners never quit.

Five principles to build up godly homes & marriages

Five principles to build up godly homes & marriages

1. TOLERANCE: Tolerance is very necessary for the success of any marriage. It is one of the principles you cannot do without if you really want your marriage to succeed. Bimbo Odukoya advised, “When you are going out with a guy or a lady, find out those things you cannot tolerate”. If you discover thing you cannot tolerate, the earlier you quit, the better. For instance, can you tolerate a guy or a lady who can commit adultery? Can you tolerate a liar or a thief? Can you tolerate someone who is nagging? These are things that don’t matter but matters a lot. Therefore, when you are going out in courtship, find out those you cannot tolerate and decide on what to do.

“Look before you leap” is a good advice to everyone who wants to have a successful marriage. You can’t find a perfect partner but you must x-ray those things you can tolerate. If you can’t tolerate it, it will terminate your marriage. “Marriage is an institution you will not graduate from, for the rest of your life,” said Benson Idahosa. Wedlock is padlock.

 2. DISCIPLINE: Discipline is one of the principled to build Godly homes and marriage. To discipline your partner, you must first discipline yourself. Abraham Lincoln noted, “The best way to show a child the way he should go is to walk in the way.” Leading by example is better than leading by words; for action speak louder than voice.

There is restriction in discipline. Permitting your children to watch all manner of programs on television is not likeness, rather, you are creating a stumbling block for their future success. Gabriel Oluyemi stated,” those that will lead revolution should not spend all their time watching television.” You need discipline before usage,” said evangelist Okoroafor. Uncle Steve noted, “Great men are not product of utterances but product of discipline”.

3. CORRECTION: The ability to take correction is one of the ways to build up Godly homes and Marriages. There is no perfect human being. It is only God that perfect. Therefore, we need correction in one area of our lives or the other. If you are willing to learn, every problem and error is correctable. Correctable people are very easy to be corrected. Rev. Fr. Richmond declared, “You can proof me wrong in my diction, you can proof me wrong in my sentences. But you cannot proof the word of God wrong.” You don’t need to proof your partner wrong because there is a place for correction in marriage.

Children grow character through correction and discipline. “lecturing your children can sometimes be as out of place as singing to people in morning, but a whipping is a wise choice of discipline at any time (Sirach 30:9-11). To be a man or woman of character, you need correction & discipline.GOOD

4. VIRTUE: Without good virtue in the home, that marriage is a failure. Uncle Steve noted, “A princess must first of all grow character or else she will become a shame to her clan.” It takes a moralist and a disciplinarian to have a good virtue. You need good virtue to bring up your children in a Godly way. If you don’t have it, you can’t pass it to your children. Rev. E.O. Ikako said, “The children and youths we refuse to train today, will give us sleepless night, today and tomorrow.” He went further to say: “training is not just passing oral instruction; it is passing your life into your student and transferring your lifestyle into children.”

 5. DOMESTICATION: We are in the era of Mr. Biggs, GT, Sweet Sensation, Shoprite and other fast food joints. As a wife, if you don’t know how to cook a simple dish, you are not qualified for marriage. Marriage don’t eliminate challenges, rather, it creates more challenges. ”If you can’t prepare a simple meal and keep the house clean, don’t think of marriage because there is a home to fix,” said Uncle Steve. Evangelist Chidi noted, “Being a Christian is a full time job.” Likewise, being a husband or wife is a full time job. To build up a Godly home and marriage we must well domesticate our children. Courage Ode stated, “The role of a mother is completely different from the role of a man.”

There is ability in disability

There is ability in disability

Nick Vujicic was having one of the most depressing childhood anyone ever had. He was born limbless. The law of Australia had to be changed to grant him admission in school. Bullied by everyone, he completed suicide at the age of 10. That is when he realized that his story was an inspiration to many and as proceeded to college. At the age of 20, he started his career as a motivational speaker.

 You can rise from where you are to where you want to be. There is ability in disability. You may be born with physical disability by what determines your effectiveness in life is the functioning of your mind. The scripture says, “As a man thinks in his heart, so is he” (Proverbs 23:7). The greatest disability is mental disability. When your mind is to in order, your life cannot be disorder. If you are physically able but mentally disable, you are altogether disabled. Few a years   ago, I wrote a book titled, Ten keys to become outstanding in life. To become outstanding, you must make use of your mind.

 Benson Idahosa noted, when God gives you a destiny, no man can alter it.” There is always a law that governs every human endeavours. If you can change the law, you will change your situation. The law of Australia had to change because Nick needed to go to school in order to fulfill his identity. Johnson Suleman declared, when you have hunger for visitation, your desire will be on fire.” Nick desire was on fire and that is why he crosses the border of limitation to fulfill his destiny.

 John Maxwell stated, “You become on the outside what you believe on the inside.” Your internal environment controls your external environment. If your heart is ok, your life will be ok,” said Joseph Chikelue. Though Nick had disability on the outside, he believed himself on the inside. Your believing system determines your living system. If you can believe in yours despite your physical disability or negative assertion from others, you will make impact in your generation. Take note: the world is too busy to listen to ordinary people; it takes a hero to be heard.

 Sonya Carson affirmed, “What is inside count most. Anybody can dress on the outside and be dead inside.” You may have physical disability but don’t allow that to stop your accomplishment and achievement in life. Your body may be disabled but your mind is disabled. A young man declared, “Whatever you conquer in mind, you conquer in life.” Your mind dictates the general tone of your life, not your body. Whether disable or not, endeavour to occupy your space in destiny. The bible says, “Occupy till I come.”

 David Longe asserted, “The primary cause of poverty is mental laziness”. The fact that you have a depressing childhood because of your disability or background does not mean you should have a depressing adulthood. Research had shown that those who move from nowhere to somewhere in life are those that come from families that have nothing to right home about. Destiny has nothing to do with disability. If God created you to be a champion nobody can make you a failure. The book of Habakkuk says, “Though it tarries, it must surely come to pass.

 Therefore, you have ability and capability. Don’t look down on yourself. If you are disabled, God knows the reason He created you that way. Rev. Fr. Ozele noted, “When you are down to nothing, God is up to something.” In the sight of God, everybody is equal. In 2kings 7:4, when the able men were afraid to take risk, God used four disabled leprous men to fulfill the prophecy if his servant (Elisha).

 Look: your physical structure may show how beautiful or ugly you are but it is your mental development that determines the degree of your impact in your generation. You may not have the credentials but you have the potentials. Life is all about impact and if you are not impacting your environment, you are not actually living. God invested so much in you. Rev. Fr. Ozele said, “You don’t know what you know until you get out of where you are.” Discover who you are and you will become a celebrity. See you at the top.

How to discover your talent

How to discover your talent

Talent is your natural ability to do something that others find it difficult to do. You cannot create talent but you can develop it. If you don’t have it, it cannot develop it. T.D. Jakes noted. A lot of people want preachers to bring out in them things that are not in them; preacher can only bring out things that God has already deposited in you”. Your talent is already in you but you need to discover it. A lot of people complain that they don’t have talent cut Rev. Fr. Panachy said, “There is no one that is not gifted.”

“To manifest your talent is to bring out that which is available but not visible part of you” said Benson Idahosa. Rev. Fr. Michael Arohusa observed. Everybody can sing but can sing in a unique way, people will pay for it. Your ability to do it in a unique and different way makes it your talent.

What are the things that you passionate about? What do you do effortlessly and easily? What are your areas of interest? What do you have conviction about/. If you are able to able to provide the right answers to these questions, you have discovered your talent. A Biochemist said, Each of us is born with distinctive equipment more than we learn to use”.

To use your, you must discover it, develop it, experiment it and watch out for people’s reaction. A talent you don’t discover, you cannot make use of. If God placed in your leg what you will use to fulfill your destiny and you go about using mouth, you cannot be fulfilled. If you are created to be a singer and you decided to be a footballer, you cannot be fulfilled. Fulfillment and satisfaction comes when you discover your potentials and use it to impact your generation, outside God’s road, there is no other road”, said David Abioye.

Choosing a life partner

choosing a life partner

Your most qualify partner is not the one that is tall or short, dark or fair, slim or fat, rich or poor, educated or uneducated but the one that is best fit into your dream and vision in life. As a man, your vision must be big enough to accommodate your wife. When God created Eve, He made her a help mate to Adam. Until you discover yourself, you cannot discover your partner. You need to have a purpose before you make a move to choose a partner. Marriage is not just for sex and enjoyment but for destiny fulfillment.

 There are different kinds of materials in marriage. There are some ladies that are business materials, some political materials some ministry materials and some home materials. As a man, when God gives you a vision, you will know who to carry along. Not all ladies can help you to fulfill your dream. Likewise, ladies,  not all men can help you to fulfill your destiny. Know what you want and go for it.